Women Reveal Their Secret Thoughts That Would Ruin Everything With Their Spouses

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Jul 10, 2022 7:00 PM EDT

People generally tell their spouses everything. After all, they're supposed to be life partners, and partnerships work best when both people are in the know about what's going on in the other person's head. Alas, there are some thoughts that are so secret and shady that even the closest of spouses might now know about one another. You may think you know someone, but sometimes, you haven't even scratched the surfaces. Honesty is the best policy, but it seems like rarely anyone sticks to that principle these days. In today's AskWomen post, women discussed things they want to tell their spouses, but the issue is that these things would ruin everything. While some of the responses on the thread are adorably wholesome, most of them were kind of depressing. We hope these ladies finally feel comfortable speaking their truth, even if it might ruin the relationship. Scroll down for this super engaging thread. 

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    Font - r/AskWomen Posted by u/mich_31_ftOn 21 hours ago What do you want to tell your spouse, but it would ruin everything?
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    Let's hear all the marriage tea. 

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    Font - GalaxyEyesight 12 hr. ago That I had major crushes on several men througout the years we're married. Never acted on them, but they were my fantasies and made me feel alive again.
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    Font - No-Explorer8900 11 hr. ago I don't want to have a child with him because I feel like I will really be stuck in the marriage. It's been so rocky for the last two years and his temper is scary. I would just rather not.
    via u/No-Explorer8900
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    Font - hyperlight85 - 16 hr. ago. edited 14 hr. ago That I hate that he still has a passing friendship with his ex spouse and I hate that he cares about them even if it's not romantic any longer. It's a long story but they basically came in out of nowhere and were the reason it took us nearly 10 years to start dating. My fiancé thinks that I and his ex are friends. The ex really adores me. But I hate them. And if they were to leave today I wouldn't care
    via u/hyperlight85
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    Plant - sketchylobster 18 hr. ago Ex spouse: I believe now years later I never loved him. I'd never tell him though.
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    Font - NorthernLotus 16 hr. ago I love him. I love the little family we built and are building. But I wasn't ready for any of it. I wish I could go back and just wait a few more years for this aspect of my life to start. I feel like I'm drowning in a stage of my life I didn't want yet.
    via u/NorthernLotus
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    Organism - NervousPig 10 hr. ago I'm not going to the dentist today, I lied about having an appointment. Instead I'm going to the airport and picking up his best friend that he hasn't seen in a year and a half. We've planned this since January and I'm so excited.
    via u/NervousPig
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    Font - abbyalllover 9 hr. ago He's Italian but I make better meatballs than him
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    Font - Successful_Tomato_38 17 hr. ago That I can't forgive him for everything he's done to me. No matter how hard I try to move on and make this work, I cannot just snap a finger and let go. That I deeply resent him and seeing his true colors has really ruined my perception of him. That I can no longer bring myself to be myself around him because I feel judged and looked down on constantly. That I realized all of this over a year ago but I love him and I'm stubborn and hopeful. That he has taug
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    Font - Advanced_Weakness_60. 16 hr. ago I imagine what life would be like if we broke up, and sometimes it feels like it would be a relief. I love him so much, and I don't want to lose him. I know I'm just fantasising, bc there's a lot I haven't done or tried and some of that stuff I can't do with him. But none of it is worth losing him.
    via u/Advanced_Weakness_60
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    Font - al_dente_spaghet. 19 hr. ago That his job is killing me. He knows I hate it, but not to the degree. He is bound by law to continue in his job for the next ten years. He's my best friend and I refuse to leave him over this job. But it hurts so bad, it makes me feel sick. Then if he did find a way to leave... I would feel like I'm not allowed to be depressed anymore because I will have gotten what I wanted.
    via u/al_dente_spaghet
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    Font - Ghiagirl71 17 hr. ago I know you love me but I haven't felt your love in a very long time. I'm tired of doing it all. Financially supporting our family. Being the forgiving one when it came to your job losses, boredom, habitual attitude and smoking, drinking, the opioids. I'm tired of it all. I want to be happy and that will never be with you. I love you with all my heart but I love me more.
    via u/Ghiagirl71
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    Human body - sisu19 20 hr. ago I watched all of stranger things season 4 without him while he was at work
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    Font - bigbombsbiggermoms 18 hr. ago I'm better at league of legends than him. We've almost broken up over duo ranked games, he makes terrible dives & gets angry when no one follows him in. I've got a lower win ratio with him than I do playing by myself or with my friends.
    via u/bigbombsbiggermoms
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    Font - speedspectator 20 hr. ago Sometimes I want to live separately, right next to each other, but stay married, a la Frida Khalo and Diego Rivera. He has some hoarding tendencies and it really drives me crazy. Makes me want to cry. Yes we've talked about, no he doesn't think it's a problem. He's very traditional about marriage and he'd never go for this idea. To him this would equate to asking for a divorce.
    via u/speedspectator

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